You amaze me with your adaptability and your resiliency; with your determination and your love.
(He threw up shortly after this picture was taken. No wonder he was grumpy! I thought it was because he was being stubborn since he doesn't like his picture taken!)
Alrighty, I really did have a thoughtful, meaningful, deep post to blog about. However, this is not it. The kids are back in practices for soccer and baseball which means we have a practice each evening. However, tonight it was a rainout so I hit the gym. Usually, Eric takes them to most of the practices except when Jake's are in a different location at the same time. But this practice thing is really getting in the way of my ability to get to the gym! Sheesh! You'd think we had active kids or something!
So I drafted the meaningful post and all you get is pictures of me, no less! I didn't have time to fool around with it. When I was gathering the required pictures for the post placement, I realized that I did not have any of just Jake and me which was one of the requested pics. Out came the camera and I told Allyson to snap away. She did very well!
HEATHER'S HELPING HANDS TEAM PAGE
or you if you cannot walk with me and would like to donate to the Arthritis Foundation towards my personal goal, you can view my personal page here.
I try not to mull over all of my RA issues with every post. However, considering the cause, here it goes:
This May, I will have had NINETEEN YEARS of joint fusions, plenty of screws, nuts, and bolts, 4 knee surgeries including 2 knee replacements, tendon transfers, two wrist reconstructions, rheumatoid nodules removed, lung surgery..... and it will continue to go on for me. There are plenty of surgeries ahead that I am digging in my heals asking my roommate named "Rheumatoid" to avoid.
Research is necessary. Support is necessary. Education is necessary. That is what the Arthritis Foundation provides. And that is why I am supporting them and "using up" my wonderful titanium knees to walk on May 14th! Let's raise some money and find new and amazing ways to rid others of this disease.
Will you help me?
Could click on "Retail Me Not" and find a coupon for apostilling and certifying a dossier
Could find a pediatrician that completes the post placement medical forms on time
We have all three kids in spring soccer, and one adding on baseball as well. All this means to me is we have four practices, one guitar lesson, one Chinese lesson, two birthday parties, one orthodontist visit, and two after school help classes I'm offering ALL this week. My head would be spinning if I hadn't already determined that it all isn't going to happen. I'm making what practices and events I can.
Oh, the bang, you ask? That would be the sound of my hatch scraping against the closing garage door. Silly me, I asked the kids to carry in groceries and didn't specifically say, "Don't close the garage door on the open hatch!". GRRRR!!!! You see, it wouldn't even be as frustrating but we just had the car repaired. Several weeks ago, I hit a bit of ice while trying to turn in a turn lane. Why can't the plows get the packed snow actually OUT of the turn lane? Besides, I'm short and it's hard to see on that side of the car. That's my defense and I'm stickin' to it.
Moving on---- this required a new bumper at one ugly price tag. I had the car home for ONE HOUR when one of Ally's friends lost control of the electric scooter she was walking beside and hit my new bumper with it. It was pretty for the first hour anyway.
And my new scratches? Well, they are adding character to the backside of my car. It's gonna be a fun week. I can just tell!
We've still been heading over to Chinese church every Sunday afternoon, and, yes, I'm still an oddity there. However, I don't feel that out of place anymore. There are certain ladies that I carry a conversation with after church, and the others are always so kind to me. Having said that, I still think that they don't really "get" my being there.
Jake is still pretty defiant. Although, he has forgotten a lot, he knows some Chinese words but acts like Chinese is a very foreign language and starts acting very naughty when he is spoken to in Chinese. We are going to keep trying. Jake's Chinese tutor told the Sunday School teacher not to use ANY English in the classroom as she was re-explaining things to Jake in English. By the way, have I told you how much I love her? She is so interesting to talk to --- so insightful, incredibly smart, and a wonderful teacher!
Now that they are a little more comfortable around me, my new Chinese friends have asked some of the questions they are curious about like, "Why did you adopt again if you already had a boy and a girl?", "Why didn't you get girls? Americans only adopt girls!", "Why didn't you get a baby?".
I've also learned that many Chinese think Americans are like "Frogs in a Well." I don't remember the Chinese words of this saying, but it's the thought that many of us completely oblivious to how other people live and work in other countries. We only view the world from our own surroundings so we only see as far as the "top of the well". I was discussing this with our Chinese tutor. Do I think this is true? Only in some respects. After all, look how many places in the world we've sent our troops and how many countries we've bailed out or provided funds to. However, does the average, non-military American really know how other cultures really live? Most everyone I run across could not identify where Kazakhstan is on a map much less be able to say anything about the country - myself included. I had to learn before I went. I don't think we put an emphasis and effort in really keeping our children informed about events happening in the world around us. I think we get too comfortable sometimes in our own realm and forget to keep learning and trying to understand where people come from and learn about the circumstances of others.
Learning more and viewing from "outside the well", will give a deeper understanding and a clearer picture of what people may be going through. For example, have you ever walked into an ethnic restaurant and thought, "Sheesh! Why can't they learn English if they are going to live here!". Of course we think they should be English speaking since they are living in our America. But let's think about some things: America is, after all, the "melting pot." Our nation grew out of hard working immigrants desiring a better life. And secondly? I now know some of those non-English speaking people who have been here for 16 years! I've come to find out that they reason they are not speaking English isn't because they are lazy. Quite the contrary! They are working in a back kitchen cooking 7 days a week all day long so they can support their family, their child, their live-in in-laws, and send money back home to care for their parents. Would you have time to be fluent in a second language?
My point is, there is so much to learn and understand about other people. Sometimes, we just need some compassion for others and a broader mind to go along with it. When we get too comfortable, our view becomes narrow-minded and we become the "frogs in the well."