Sunday Snapshot: Conversations with Jake

It's been awhile since we've had a "Conversations With Jake" post. Trust me, it's not that he's stopped talking. There are days when my husband comes home and asks him to just take a breath. He talks non-stop ALL.DAY.LONG! 

The other day he found his photo book of pictures of our home that we sent to him while he was in China. Oh how he carried that around everywhere! He wouldn't leave it home to go run an errand or go to "shea shou" (school).

Somewhere along month four or five of being home, he started leaving it behind. He still would look through it and ask where is this toy or that toy? But the other day, he started going through it again telling me what Chinese mommy said about the pictures.  He said Chinese daddy didn't get to see them because he was at work (I'm wondering if he is just referring to the day he received it). While looking at the backyard picture, he said that Chinese mommy told him that the swingset was his, but the pool was Daddy's. Guess she didn't want him to go near it! I asked him what she said about the picture of Eric and myself.  Evidently, she did tell him that it was his new mama and baba, but I guess Jake didn't quite understand that completely. He went through each page talking about something in the picture and then remembering something specific to his life in China. 

He still tells us stories of his life in China on a daily basis. Some are indeed big fish tails and some are sadly true.  Part of me wishes I didn't know the things he was exposed to even though I realize it is better to understand where he's coming from. It amazes me to hear him talk about the details in the things he remembers. A knife, a propane tank, buying fish....all bring memories of how he cut his finger cutting an apple, Chinese mommy's cooking with propane, and fishing with Chinese daddy. He FREQUENTLY talks about the old tire he played with every day. He loved rolling it around and would bring it into the house ~ according to him. He said he didn't have a toy, but liked the old tire to Chinese daddy's "dirty car" (his words).  He gets so excited when he sees a tool that we have that Chinese daddy had too. 

Having the book around again, reminded me of a special moment in China. We were in Guangzhou by then and going out to eat with other adoptive families. Jake was the oldest newly adopted child in the group. After everyone sat down to the dinner table, and he was sure he had a captive audience, he pulled the photo book out of his backpack and got everyone's attention even yelling out, "AYI!" (auntie) to Kelly. He would open a page of his book standing where everyone could see him and show off each page just like a preschool teacher does as she's reading to her students. He was so so proud of his family, his things, his new life, and his book. You could not help but fall head over heals for him.

The tables have turned now as Jake doesn't show off the picture book, but will show off his framed picture of him sitting with his Chinese mommy and daddy. I'm glad he's proud. I'm glad he still gets excited when he sees something that reminds him of his past life. 

Here we are, a few weeks shy of ten months of being home, and the book, his Chinese mommy and daddy, and Chinese life is still so very precious to him. And you know what? It sure is precious to me too!

Ni Hao Yall

Grace  – (January 23, 2011 at 12:18 PM)  

What a blessing you both are to one another. Such an adorable smile.
I enjoyed reading about Jake and your family.

Unknown  – (January 23, 2011 at 2:35 PM)  

Oh yeah, this Ayi fell head over heels over Jake--no question about it. He was so super cute showing off that book. And, that picture of him you have here smiling so big that his eyes are only little lines just makes me smile too. :)

3 Countries 1 Love  – (January 23, 2011 at 3:42 PM)  

What a precious little boy!!! Sometimes I wish that my daughter, adopted at 3 years old, remembered things about her life in China, but sadly, she doesn't.

Kristi  – (January 23, 2011 at 4:54 PM)  

My little DQ still expresses her desire to visit her foster mommy again. Jake's excitement is precious ~ as are his pictures for sure!
One thought, his foster father could have been a migrant worker. We were told that Darcy's was and that he was only around a few weeks at a time a few times a year. Wonder if there is any way you could find out about that.

Unknown  – (January 23, 2011 at 11:52 PM)  

What a special post. I love that you have incorporated his past into your home now and he has that picture. He is a treasure. I am so glad you get to be his Mommy!

Annie  – (January 24, 2011 at 1:02 AM)  

Beautiful Heather!! What a smile that precious child has!

Stefanie  – (January 24, 2011 at 4:25 PM)  

Wow, that's wonderful.
I can imagine it's hard to know things that happened... but what a blessing he is able to share that with you! You two share a truly special bond :)

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